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The Stonehenge Image

by djbaxter on May 4, 2013

The-Cleansing-Medium

I received an email this morning from a reader across the ocean:

I was impressed (hailing from England) that you have a picture of Stonehenge on your page at Dr. David J. Baxter – Ottawa Psychologist | Mackenzie Thompson, Ottawa Counselling and Psychotherapy, Assessment | Psychology Mental Health Self-Help Resources

Do you see Stonehenge as a image of tranquility, wellness?

By the way I stumbled across your work, researching Bi-Polar disorder at Psychlinks Self-Help & Mental Health Support Forum

Regards,

Patrick

I have always been fascinated by the early history of the British Isles. especially of the Celtic tribes and the history preceding the Roman conquest and following the collapse of the Roman empire. I’ve also always been aware of the emotional power of Stonehenge for me personally. But I confess I’ve never really stopped to consider why I thought it so fitting as a symbol for the Psychlinks web sites. This morning, after receiving Patrick’s email, I did just that.

Here is my response to him:

Good morning from Canada, Patrick: I see the Stonehenge image as many things, actually…

  • A link for individuals between the past, the present, and the future
  • A symbol of strength, endurance, and resilience: the ability to weather the storms of life and time and survive
  • A symbol of stoic tranquility, wisdom, and solid grounding
  • A link between the physical, the spiritual, and the mystical
  • A link across generations
  • Not necessarily a symbol of current wellness but the ability to persevere and to find strength to locate and retrieve what is healthy within you

And incidentally, my family is also from England. I was born in London and still have several family members and relatives in England and Scotland.

The image was cropped from a photograph taken a few years ago by my son, Daniel, a copy of which hangs in my office.

Dr. David J. Baxter, C.Psych.
Psychologist

It is also a personal reminder that adding the image to this blog is still on my to-do list…

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What About Me? A Book for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse
by Grant Cameron
Revised and reissued 2013

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What About Me? is for men who are helping female partners recover from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. The book is unique because it’s the end result of the traumatic and trying times Grant Cameron encountered while helping his wife, Liz, deal with her abusive past. If you are a partner of someone who was abused as a child, you will find this book enlightening. It takes you into the world of a child sexual abuse survivor and explains in laymen’s terms how to help, deal and cope with the survivor’s anger, grief and pain. Grant covers important subjects like the inner child, the necessity for breaks and how to be a support.

Click here if you have any questions about the book.

From the author
I am the husband of a partner who was sexually abused as a child, so I have first-hand experience of many of the difficulties that spouses face as they attempt to help their wives heal from the torment and trauma of abuse.

Partners of childhood sexual abuse survivors will find this book enlightening as it explains in layman’s terms how to help a survivor cope and deal with her anger and pain. I draw on my personal experiences as a husband and supporter of a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I talk openly about subjects like trust and anger, suicide, sex, nightmares and the child within. I try to educate and dispel myths and misconceptions. I also offer advice on coping, releasing rage and whether a partner of a survivor should stay or go.

The book is called What About Me? It is not meant in any way to take the place of a good counselor. However, my hope is that the book will help men who are partners of childhood sexual abuse survivors understand what the survivor is going through in order that they may be a help rather than hindrance to her healing.

The book was originally published in 1994 by Creative Bound Inc. and sold in most major bookstore chains and through Amazon.com. The book received rave reviews and five editions were published before the publisher retired. I decided to update and publish the book as a downloadable file so it can be accessed more quickly by partners of survivors.

The book can be downloaded from a website at www.helpforpartners.wordpress.com.

Over the years, many partners and survivors of childhood sexual abuse have written to me, thanking me for writing the book and noting that it helped them get through the healing process because it explained the situation more clearly and thoroughly to partners.

Comment
I came across this book when it was first published. It is indeed a remarkable book and, at the time, entirely unique. There have been a few books subsequently published with a similar them but this one remains my favorite for its simplicity and calrity of presentation and for the beautiful support it describes from an initially puzzled and bewildered man to his beloved wife, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Unfortunately, the book has been out of print for some time now, so it is with pleasure that I announce its current availability in a new form.

The cost is $15.95. If you are the spouse of a survivor of childhood sexual abuse or if you are a survivor who would like your spouse to understand some of what you are going through, I highly recommend this book.

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Lying in young children: Errors of anthroporphism

February 23, 2013

From a recent post on the blog of the British Psychological Association: Lying is common at age two, becomes the norm by three by Christian Jarrett, BPS research Digest February 22, 2013 They’re too young to need to fib about lipstick on their collar or even their unfinished homework but a new study finds the […]

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Canadian Internet Forum sponsored by CIRA February 2013

January 15, 2013

Canadian Internet Forum – Save the date and Report of Findings The Canadian Internet Registration Authority (CIRA) will be holding the third annual Canadian Internet Forum (CIF) national event in Ottawa on February 28, 2013. You will receive a more detailed invitation within the few weeks which will provide you with all the information you […]

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Products Behaving Badly: Acronis True Image 2012

August 22, 2012

I recently bought and installed Acronis True Image 2012 (I won’t provide a link because I do NOT recommend this product at all). I realized within a couple of days that this would not do what I wanted on my laptop so I uninstalled it, thinking perhaps I might use it on my desktop. When […]

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Tom Wootton: How I Found Ecstasy In Depression

August 1, 2012

Editorial comment: This is on one level a moving first-person account of the experience of living a life with bipolar disorder. But on a larger level it is a remarkable testament to the power and determination of the human spirit. Regardless of your clinical or scientific orientation, it is well worth the read. ~ David […]

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